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The Greatest Love of All

Sometimes Valentine’s Day makes me see red. There is so much emphasis on loving couples toasting each other with loving cups of fine wine and sharing platefuls of delicious food. Expectations are as high as the romance meter, not to mention prices at restaurants for those coveted two top tables. One NYC restaurant is charging $1000 per couple for a “gourmand experience.” It’s all fine if you want to buy into it…and if you are a couple.

But many of you are single and fabulous. There should be no shame or sadness in being single, either by choice or by changes in your life. Being alone has many advantages. I was single well into my 40’s and used the time to travel solo all around the word, indulge my whims, gather with girlfriends for crazy nights out and do myriad things I seem to do less of now that I am consciously coupled.  Being in a steady relationship has its benefits and trade offs.

I think learning to be comfortable alone and appreciative of one’s self is the emotional home we must build from within before we open the door to let anyone inside.  Here are my tips for Loving the One You’re With Every Day…Your Self.

1. Live to express not impress. Embrace and project your authentic you. Don’t try to be anyone or anything you are not just to impress someone who should be looking at the real you anyway.

2. Imagination is a powerful companion. As an only child who grew up alone much of the time, I learned to use my creativity to keep entertained. I feel you are never alone in your thoughts and that can be a good thing if you  use your mind constructively.  But many don’t share that same comfort level or practical application. In fact, Science Magazine reported a University of Virginia study where respondents said they’d rather administer electrical shocks to themselves rather than be left alone in their thoughts*. …What were they thinking?

3. Be the life of your own party and make your life your party. Simply put: Do what you love, love what you do and share it with others. Don’t hold back waiting for the party to come you. Make it happen yourself.

4. The only approval you need is your self. Open you hands; put your arms around you and give yourself a hug. You are doing OK.

5. You’re not just single. You are singular. Be “one singular sensation” every day and make “every step you take and every move you make” your special imprint in life.

6. Take it all in stride. Knots tie and untie. Things change by chance or choice. Make sure whatever happens, good or bad, does not erode your internal happiness.

7. When it comes to finding love, you need to love your self first.  If you stay true to you, true love will follow you. 


* Reference: Science Magazine July 2014 Vol. 345 no 6192 pp 77-77 DOI: 10.1126/science.1250840




Fearless-Fabulous You Banner with TimesThis week on Fearless Fabulous You! Meet two women who can turn your kitchen and pantry into a lean, green health machine. Stefanie Sacks, MS, CNS, CDN, lives in Montauk, NY, and hosts the Hamptons NPR radio show “Stirring the Pot.” Her book What the Fork Are You Eating? stirs up alot of information and thoughts about what you are putting in your body and what you want to start tossing.  Winnie Abramsom has a doctorate in naturopathic medicine and a helpful palate inspiring blog called She’s author of One Simple Change: Surprisingly Easy Ways To Transform Your Life and will share some simple changes you can make today. 9pm ET/6pm PT on and podcast on iHeart Radio (under Shows & Personalities.

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