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Don’t Forget To Smile!

On December 21, 2020 / Attitude Adjustment, Coping

An itchy nose and maskne rash notwithstanding, another side effect for many people wearing masks is forgetting to smile. The bottom half of your face is covered, so your eyes become the main form of expression unless you are wearing sunglasses and a hat. Then your face basically disappears. On the creative side, masks have become a new form of expression, a fashion accessory that can match your clothes and offer a message across your face. If wearing a mask is the new normal, give it your personal touch, especially this holiday season. Mask wearing has created funny and not funny outcomes: On the

Want to Appear Ten Years Younger? Try This…

On December 14, 2018 / Aging Gracefully, Attitude Adjustment

Lie about your age? That’s right! If you are anywhere upwards of age fifty or older and reconsidering a new job or career, or re-entering the job market, you may need to lie about your age and your experience on your resume. That’s what I have learned after having an executive recruiter review and rewrite my resume. I was shocked! She told me to: Shave 10 years off my experience (aka “age”) Add as many computer skills as possible Add my college grade point average and remove the year I graduated Change my address to New York City Blur dates It was

Never Silence a Songbird. Never Dash a Dream.

On November 7, 2018 / Attitude Adjustment, Happiness

I recently watched a movie about the Italian singer, Andrea Bocelli. There is a defining scene where an opera critic tells Bocelli he doesn’t have a voice for opera. Bocelli vows never to sing again. A friend convinces Bocelli to work with an operatic voice coach and not give up. Bocelli went on to become one of the world’s most renowned tenors. Imagine if Bocelli had just listened to that one critic. When the actor, Sidney Poitier auditioned for a role early in his career, he was told to “stop wasting people’s time and go out and become a

State of the YOUnion

On January 31, 2018 / Making Things Happen

How are those New Year’s resolutions coming along? Are you still on track? If you find yourself in a make ’em, then break ’em mode, you are not alone. Research data has shown that 80% of people break their New Year’s resolutions by February 1st. Read this article. So, if you feel you’re back to your old self in this new year, here is what you can do: Make a FABuary resolution to accomplish Just One Thing. Forget the long list. Just focus on the one thing you can do and stick to it. Keep a journal to document your progress. Sometimes it’s easy to do

Mary, There May Be Quilts

On August 6, 2017 / Attitude Adjustment

While many stress the importance of first impressions, I’m a believer in taking a second look. They say you can’t judge a book by its cover, but often an individual needs a deeper read when it comes to her personality. Someone you may consider withdrawn or dull may simply be shy and needs time to warm up to people. Her personality will be slowly coaxed out if you give her a chance. The same goes for life as we know it and the surroundings and objects that fill it. That first date, or the first day of that vacation or school or job

Ageism- Take a Hike!

On May 15, 2017 / Aging Gracefully, Attitude Adjustment

Recently I attended a movie screening for my friend, Kathleen Squires’ new film, “James Beard: America’s First Foodie.” The screening was hosted by AARP. The trailer before the film was themed “take another look at AARP.” It showed vibrant, sexy, loving and active seniors. That’s right: Ageism, take a hike! According to AARP, about two in three workers between the ages of 45-74 have experienced ageism issues in the workforce. The Age Discrimination in Employment Act of 1967 was supposed to address unfairness, but in 2015, over 21,000 complaints were filed with the government. Management often sites stamina and energy, lack

Act My Age? Which One?

On April 24, 2017 / Aging Gracefully, Attitude Adjustment

I just celebrated my 40th high school class reunion in Chattanooga. I graduated Girls Preparatory School (GPS), a private girls school established in 1906. They say in Chattanooga that you “you can spot a GPS girl” by the way they she carries herself, her poise and her manners. You can see it in her spirit as well. The school colors are black and blue, and students and alumnae are called “bruisers.” Ironically, Merriam- Webster Dictionary defines a bruiser as a “husky man.” But the more urban definition is “someone who’s tough and doesn’t get taken down easily, someone with a

Stop Holding It In!

On April 16, 2017 / Attitude Adjustment, Healthy Living

Tuck it in. Suck it in. Hold it in. How many times have you heard, read or said this? Well, I say do the opposite: Let it out! I recently interviewed movement specialist Mary Derbyshire for my radio show Fearless Fabulous YOU! The focus was staying agile at any age. Here is the link. Mary discussed how to sit, stand and move your body without overtaxing it. One thing I learned is that we tend to hunch and constrict our bodies rather than stay loose and limber. I realized during the discussion that too many of us are too tightly wound

Fearless Fabulous You! Eat the Cake!

On February 19, 2017 / Attitude Adjustment, Life As We Know It

This week a friend send me this quote below. I immediately dropped plans to work on my taxes and other practical things this weekend and took the day off to go cross country skiing. The sun was out; the weather was warm and the snow conditions were just right. Taxes could wait; the perfect day could not. That’s the meaning of Eat the Cake. Too many times we deny ourselves the joy of stepping out of our routines to take time to do something truly pleasurable, even decadent. Or we are so focused on creating constraints in our lives to

Finding Your Ruby Slippers – Feb 13- Fearless Fabulous YOU!

On February 12, 2017 / Attitude Adjustment

“Finding Your Ruby Slippers” is the name of a book by my February 13th show guest, Psychotherapist and Clinical Social Worker Lisa Ferentz, The Ferentz Institute, on how to overcome self-destructive habits, conquer fear and find your inner strength. With Feb 26-March 4 being National Eating Disorders Week, this is one of the topics we will address, among others. One of my favorite quotes from a favorite movie. Listen now:

Thanking & Giving: A Steady Diet To Nourish Your Soul

On November 21, 2016 / Attitude Adjustment

Most of us will gather around a Thanksgiving table laden with food and surrounded by family and friends. We’ll stuff ourselves silly, share laughs and take photos. Some of us may visit a soup kitchen, stop by a church or run in a morning Turkey trot. It will be an abundant day filled with gratitude. But after the meal is over and the table is cleared here are two morsels to keep fresh forever: Thank more. Give more. Being thankful is not just for a special occasion; it’s a way of life. The simple words “Thank you” can nourish the spirit

The Best Cure for Anger? Get Active!

On November 16, 2016 / Attitude Adjustment

I’m usually not a nervous eater, but the night of November 8 watching the presidential election results on television I reached for everything in sight to stuff my face. Like a bad hangover, my lethargy and unease lingered for days. I found reading Facebook posts and watching the news upsetting. As the week progressed I found myself less upset by the outcome and more anxious by the outpouring of anger that resonated coast to coast. People were angry before the election; people are angry after. If I felt anxiety as an adult, I can’t imagine what young kids watching the news

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