Kerry says, “There is a direct correlation between people’s names and their unique personality traits, and when onomalogy is applied to sales, personal life and family you can predict who is more likely to buy or not, how others will react in relationships and in your home, and why.”
“The optimist sees the glass half full. The pessimist sees it half empty. The opportunist drinks the water.”- Unknown
Some people are entrepreneurs who create and build businesses. Some people are infopreneurs who produce and traffic news and information. I’m an opportuneur. My definition of an opportuneur is someone who takes advantage of opportunities and turns them into something meaningful. Here is another definition from business consultant Gary Brown: “Opportuneurs seek purpose and want to create change. They follow their passions and look for opportunities where they can use their talents to create this change.”
An opportuneur is a bit different from an entrepreneur. By definition an entrepreneur “is
Opportuneurs are often entrepreneurs but not always. I am a better opportuneur than entrepreneur. I wrote a successful book, Getting Things Off My Chest, that arose from my own personal experience with breast cancer with the mission to help others facing the disease make better decisions about their well-being. That’s being opportuneurial. Creating a successful business service or product to provide for the emotional and nutritional needs of cancer patients is being entrepreneurial.
Growing up in Chattanooga, Tennessee, dining out with my parents often meant eating at Asian restaurants. My parents traveled extensively in Asia when I was very young and fell in love with the flavors of the food, especially the cuisines of Japan and Thailand. There were barely a handful of Asian restaurants in Chattanooga back then, and we tried them all. None of them were terribly good, but the dishes all sounded exotic and, according to my mother, eating Asian food was healthy. “You never see fat people in Asia,” she would tell me. And I listened.
When I moved to New York City, I lived on Chinese and Thai takeout. It was tasty, easy and affordable. What I didn’t realize until my pants became tighter and tighter was that my dishes of Sesame Noodles, Moo Shu Pork and General Tso’s Chicken were also packing on the pounds.
Then, the Center for Science in the Public Interest came out with some reports that turned going out for a meal at an Asian restaurant into a “Wok on the Wild Side” for your health, thanks to dishes high in saturated fat and sodium. I felt deceived, but really I was simply misinformed. Mother didn’t know best,
I like to help people transform their “Now What?” into their “Do It Now!” Many people live in a state of Now What? and can’t seem to cross the border into new horizons. Often what is holding them back is the energy that can propel them forward: fear.
Fear is an amazing energy source that can jump start any action, good or bad, if channeled properly. Fear can give birth to purpose. It can change the course of your life for the better. It can give you more clarity for what really matters. When I was diagnosed with breast cancer, I learned to re-channel my fear to focus on living better and more purposefully. I stopped being fearful of what people would think of me and started speaking my mind, giving birth to my own voice. To lose your grip on fear; you need to re-channel that amazing energy force into something you love doing. I threw myself into writing. Others take up dance or cooking or painting. It’s whatever you enjoy.
No one is ever truly fearless. Fear is an unwanted visitor that tries to linger in your mind and body. Your goal is to send it packing and not allow it to nest. I often compare fear to having hot flashes. My fear flashes are usually triggered by a news item on television, or a sudden panic attack about money, or I read about a woman who lost her battle with breast cancer. It happens. I treat my fear-flashes much like my hot flashes: drink plenty of water, get fresh air, move my body, center through meditation or yoga, and call or write a friend to think about them and not me.
Next time you have a fear-flash, here are five ways to turn it into positive energy:
1. Write down five things you love about yourself.
2. Write down five talents or skills you have that you enjoy, and think about other ways to use them.
3. Write down five things you would rather be doing than fretting. Act on one of them. (OK, if one of them is jetting to Peru, then plan a virtual trip!)
4. Call or write five friends – or new acquaintances – to ask them what they are up to and just listen and respond. Schedule a date with at least one of them to get together in person. Filling up your dance card with enjoyable activities allows less time for fear to squeeze into place.
5. Change your location. Move away from the spot where fear is starting to fester. Get up from the desk. Turn off the TV. Take a walk. Go for a ride. If you cannot physically change your location, move your mind away with a healthy distraction. One of my personal favorites is dancing to music. My husband, David is getting used to seeing me pop up and start hip-hop gyrating at strange times of the day and night. Sometimes, he even joins in.
Fear seems to latch on to people whose minds are a bit sedentary. So flex your mental muscle and allow yourself be utterly and crazily creative. Dump any emotional flotsam and jetsam floating inside your head. Re-route “no way” into “get out of my way” and give fear a run for its money. You can take that to the bank!
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When CEOs want to boost their brands and build their business they turn to the the real-deal business “Love machine” to help make it happen. Jennifer Love has over 15 years building and working with consumer (CPG) brands. Currently, Jennifer is the Business Navigator + CEO of the Entrepreneurist – a fast-track strategy incubator that combines invaluable tools and results-driven mentorship.
Jennifer joins me March 16 on Fearless Fabulous You! to discuss the secret to entrepreneurial success…yours and hers. We’ll also discuss some issues near and dear to both of us to help young women boost their self-esteem and realize their self-worth.
A serial entrepreneur, Jennifer has a sharp ability to navigate trends and tactically innovate, which is an asset to the growth of the leaders she advises. On a given day, Jennifer may be found serving as a judge for events like Startup Weekend, on stage speaking to a variety of audiences, advising a client behind the scenes of Biz Fix with Marcus Lemonis, preparing a client for Shark Tank, or working with entrepreneurs in her JLove Business Camp.
Many of us have a great idea or a new solution to an everyday challenge lingering in the back of our minds but don’t act on it. Having a good idea is great. Acting on it is even better. It takes a leap of faith combined with plenty of legwork.
The reason many us don’t move forward is not because of roadblocks that stand in your way. Often it is the emotional barriers we create. Here are five mental hurdles you may have and how to scale them to make your leap:
1. I don’t have the time. If not now, when? If you can make time for a weekly mani-pedi, spin class, laundry or posting endlessly on Facebook, why can’t you take the same amount of time to work on your new idea? Flexing your mind is as important as flexing your body. Tip: Put the “Do not disturb” sign up and add just one hour in your week for “project development.”
2. I can’t afford to do it. Hey! You can’t afford not to. Taking action costs relatively nothing compared to living with the price of regret for not trying. If money is tight, take baby steps to get started. Start saving in other areas or trading off to give yourself more spending power to spark your idea. I traded dining out for eating in and stopped buying stuff that was simply filling up my drawers and counters, often rarely used.
.3. I don’t have the skills. Well, you probably do and just don’t know it. First, look at what talents you have and think about using them in other ways. I host two radio shows and never took a class called “How to be a radio host.” I knew I loved to write, had a gift for gab and an inquisitive mind and just repackaged my communications skills to use them in a fresh new way.Want to learn new skills? Volunteer your time and talent with organization which aligns with your goals to gain hands on experience.
4. I lack the proper education or degree. That didn’t seem to stop Bill Gates. You are smarter than you think. Our bodies are designed to give birth which is pretty amazing! But our minds are equally able to give birth to ideas, which is awesome!
Tip: If you feel you need to deposit to your brain trust, there are many online courses and Apps you can download. Just jump in with that extra hour a week you just gave yourself. I am a big fan of free webinars and tele-seminars. Usually there’s a no-obligation sales pitch at the end. But you can learn plenty just by listening for one hour free. For some jobs like teaching, an advanced degree is necessary. Many programs offer payment plans for slightly more money or provide professional discounts to certain groups.
5. It seems like everyone is already doing what I want to do. Sometimes I wonder if any idea is truly original anymore. Here’s the reality: There is a market for everything if you identify your niche and audience, understand their needs and figure out how to reach them and with a compelling message. Just give your idea a new twist.
When I was undergoing breast cancer treatment in 2010 a friend gave me a copy of Rebecca Katz‘s award winning book, The Cancer Fighting Kitchen. It remains one of my favorite books to refer to for healthy cooking and nurturing, nourishing recipes. Rebecca’s newest book is The Healthy Mind Cookbook: Big-Flavor Recipes to Enhance Brain Function, Mood, Memory and Mental Clarity. Her co-author, as with four of her books, is the award winning science, health and sports writer, Mat Edelson (The Cancer- Fighting Kitchen, The Longevity Kitchen, One Bite at a Time and The Healthy Mind Cookbook.
Rebecca joins me on Fearless Fabulous You! March 9th, 9pm ET/6pm PT, to discuss how she harnessed the latest research on brain science to identify the foods that can help improve the brain’s function ability to control cognition, emotion and physical function. We’ll discuss Rebecca’s simple approach called FASS- which stands for fat, acid, salt and sweet- to create flavorful, perfectly balanced recipes.
I used to say that when it was snowing the “the angels were brushing their hair.” This year, the angels have really let their hair down, giving much of the country a cold shoulder. If hell actually froze over it may have been this winter.
Like many living in the icy parts of the country I had my cold snap this past week. In my winter meltdown I wailed to my husband….and to the snow angels, “I’ve had enough! As God is my witness, I want to go home to Tara!” In reality, my “Tara” in Chattanooga, Tennessee, received a good six inches of snow this week. My mother curled up with a good book, watched movies on television, and enjoyed a three dog night.
David said, “Snap out of it!” We made a pact: Complaining about the weather is officially off limits from this point on. If you can’t control the weather, stop bitching about it and adapt. If you have a roof over your head, albeit groaning from the weight of snow; if you have food to eat; if you have heat and clothes to stay warm; if you have enough of what you need to weather the cold; why waste your energy complaining? Too many people in the world lack for food, shelter, warmth, clothing and even basic necessities like clean water, sanitation or good health.
Instead of complaining I started re-framing, and made this list which I call: “Don’t Flurry. Be Happy” – 12 things snowy, winter days are good for that you probably would never do when the sun is shining……..(feel free to weigh in)
Are you getting over a breakup or about to break off a relationship? Are you newly single and a little timid about re-entering the dating scene? Let’s face it….many of have been down that road. We may end up taking different directions, but we can all agree that it is not an easy journey!
On the March 2nd edition of Fearless Fabulous You! relationship expert, Susan J. Elliott, JD, M.Ed., will help you learn to jump back into the dating saddle again with confidence.
As with anything, re-entering the dating scene is a process. Susan’s new book, Getting Back Out There: Secrets to Successful Dating and Finding Real Love after the Big Breakup, outlines the pains and gains inherent in facing the dating scene again. Susan’s “Five Rs”—Readiness, Rejection, Recycling, Rebounding, and Retreating— help you navigate the bumps you can expect on the road to a new relationship, and shows you how to cope with them. Continue reading
I’ve always liked a good egg, especially a perfectly executed fluffy omelet or eggs with my southern biscuits. But like many Americans, I am concerned about my cholesterol. So for years I’ve limited my consumption of eggs since we were told by the Nutrition gods that eggs were bad for your cholesterol.
The gods got it wrong. After receiving a life sentence for being an accomplice to the “silent killer” (a.k.a. high cholesterol) leading to more heart attacks and strokes, eggs have been pardoned. So has shellfish. The folks over at Red Lobster must be celebrating. I’m ready to boil up some shrimp and crawfish.
The “Jury” in this case is the U.S. Dietary Guidelines Advisory Committee which recently released its five year report to the U.S. Department of Agriculture (USDA) and Health and Human Services (HHS). The report includes updated recommendations to help federal officials decide the 2015 U.S. Dietary Guidelines for Americans. The final report will be released later this year.
What’s the point? Here’s why it matters from the website
The Dietary Guidelines for Americans (Dietary Guidelines) provides advice for making food and physical activity choices that promote good health, a healthy weight, and help prevent disease for Americans ages 2 years and over, including Americans at increased risk of chronic disease. The recommendations are based on a rigorous review of relevant scientific evidence that occurs through a transparent process. The Dietary Guidelines serves as the cornerstone for all federal nutrition education and program activities.
As with any major proceeding there’s a debate period. In this case, a 45 day open forum which started February 19th, where nutrition and health experts, food producers, commodity groups and just about anyone else with an opinion can weigh in.